Yesterday we went to see the RE to discuss our options, as my period should start next week and then 21 days from then the IVF party gets started! Whoo! I'm making balloon animals, come on in!
One of the things we brought up was the possibility of doing a fresh cycle over a frozen cycle. They told us they'd ring us back today, and they did. We have to do our frozen cycle first, which has many issues, the biggest of two being:
1) We may blow our entire stash of frozen embryos to just get two good ones that thaw
2) The success rate is only 16.2%
Right.
But then the nurse dropped a bombshell-we maybe won't be able to have another fresh donor cycle at all. If my FET fails, I have to have a discussion with the head doctor and the egg share program coordinator, as it's not as certain as I once thought it was that I would get two donor cycles. As I had a fresh cycle in Sweden that didn't result in a pregnancy (if a few days pregnancy can count, which apparently it doesn't) and as I didn't get pregnant this past fresh cycle, then the concern is that I potentially won't be able to get pregnant.
That maybe my eggs are no good.
That maybe my donee days are over as I am not such a good candidate.
But-says the nurse-don't panic! Just get pregnant on the FET, then we won't have to worry or get to that discussion!
Right. Because it's that easy! Why didn't I think of that?
But now the floor has fallen out beneath me.
And I am in a blind panic.
Posted by Vanessa at June 2, 2006 09:14 AM | TrackBackI suppose it's not possible to change clinics? It doesn't sound as if they are being helpful to me. My clinic has always encouraged us to do fresh cycles. Now we don't have as many good looking embryos as you, but still. Maybe worth a look around?
Also, did you ask them what the 16.2% refers to? Cycles started or embryos transferred? It makes a big difference...
Posted by: thalia at June 3, 2006 01:46 PMVanessa.
You. will. find. a. way. to. do. it.
No matter what happens.
Meg x
I am feeling for you. x
Posted by: Meg at June 3, 2006 08:57 AMI am really sorry, the last thing you need is more presure on this cycle. If they are concerned about your eggs it would be nice if they did more testing rather than making assumptions. I hate the stats on the FET, drives me nuts to have such a little scrap of hope.
Nothing clever to add - just that i am thinking of you both and hopeing that it all goes well for you
abs xxxx
Posted by: abs at June 2, 2006 05:07 PMBabe. Stop. Do NOT panic. Look, you DID get pregnant before, whether they count it or not. How many people have to do multiple cycles before it works, huh? Don't panic until you hear what the doctor has to say, and why he thinks the way he does, either way.
And how perverse would it be if you got preggers on the FET, with less chance?
Hugs!
Posted by: caltechgirl at June 2, 2006 03:47 PM